Sunday, February 26, 2006

Do We Choose Our Death or Does Our Death Choose Us?

Have you ever really notcied the way that people die? I'm not talking about accidents or unforseen circumstances with sad endings. I mean the person that learns they have an illness that puts a solid, yet unrevealed number on their days remaining. You see people who live their lives with grace, carry themselves well and have earned the love and respect of those they encounter. Is it per chance that they often die with the same degree of dignity and genteelness that they lived? Aren't they often (often, not always) the ones that go in peace, or in their sleep or without much suffering at all.

It seems like once a person moves beyond their own fear they are often at peace with what comes next.

What I really wonder about is that miserable fucker that slammed everyone they'd ever met into the verbal ground in their waking, walking days. You know the kind I mean. Never a good word to say about anyone behind their back, never an insult to their face either. Is it a coincidence that these people are othen left to linger & suffere & drain the life & spirit from those around them? Isn't it kind of a reflection on the way that they lived their life & doesn't it almost make sense that they would fade away inch by inch with the same level of misery that they lived?

Is it really all just a coincidence? Luck of the draw? Another form of karma perhaps?


Blogger Dr_Melinda_Warner said...

Oh boy. First of all this answer can go either way. This has me worried about this question Bobby. Of course we have the thoughts of suicide, which most people don't take actions upon. However, some do, chosing their own death. However I don't beleive that death chooses us neccesarily, I beleive that your God (whomever you beleive in) chooses that for you.

As for the "fucker" you refer to, I like to think of it this way, leave them on earth longer, the ones that pass away sooner get to enjoy their God sooner. However it is unfortnate for the ones that are on earth that have to listen to them and be tortured by them, but then again, they can be ignored.

3:50 PM  

I think the kind of life you live has a bearing on what happens to you if you have a life threatening illness. If you have been a kind and good person you probably won't have to face the end alone. The good person would have friends and family to help and console them. That has to make the end easier. The person lacking a real soul would certainly face death much more alone and that must be haunting to them. Karma: Yes. :)

4:19 PM  
Blogger ann said...

There is no rhyme nor reason about death. None of us knows how we will face it... with fortitude or dignity; with fear or awe, surrounded by loved ones or alone. We cannot choose our fate, so I don't believe however we lived our lives, will have any bearing on how we die. The most wicked people can die peacefully and the most wonderful, in pain and sorrow. Life isn't fair and neither's death.

It's when we pass to the other side, the score is settled.

lotsa luv ann xxxxx

5:18 PM  
Blogger FreakFeet said...

First, I'd like to say, Welcome back! Sorry I missed your other posts.

Secondly, I'm throwing +10 points your way. lol

And now, we each deal with death and illness our own ways. Some people become humble, generous, kind.... Others choose to be less humane (for lack of a better word). But, despite that, I don't think that one's life influences how they die up to a certain extent. Karma can be a bitch, but sometimes it doesn't show up until it's too late--not even with those "fuckers" you so kindly referred to.

6:30 PM  
Blogger VDOFan said...

I think death chooses us and it's all a part of karma.. as well. I agree with DNY as well.

hugs janice

6:40 PM  
Blogger jen said...

I've been worrying about this issue for a while and the only thing that gives me any comfort is, of all things, that Tim McGraw song, Live Like You Were Dying (not a country music fan by nature so this was a real shocker). I hope that I will conduct myself in such a way during my life that my death is a welcome transition to a better place and, I hope, only when my work here on Earth is done (and that means Hannah raised and educated and secure and happy with enough people who love her to fill my void). I wish that you could earn more days to your life--that by being good and truthful and hardworking and kind and leaving the world a better place than you found it, in whatever modest way you are capable, you could get more time. The flip side of course is that you get docked if you dick people over. I could totally sign off on a deal like that.

7:24 PM  
Blogger Shadow of a Joke said...


8:12 PM  
Blogger Finn said...

It's not the death you choose, Bobby, it's all the ones you don't choose.

Keep on living, man.

8:31 PM  
Blogger Ken said...

In truth, it doesnt really matter which it is. We fight to the last bloody drop and damn the circumstances.

Otherwise, we never truly lived.

9:22 PM  
Blogger Amy said...

You know, I have often wondered the same thing.

10:02 PM  
Blogger Selena Marie said...

Many Good,Decent and Caring people I have known,especially in my family,have Suffered horrible deaths, because of Cancer, or Auto accidents. My own Dear Mother suffered for 5 yrs with Brain Tumors, and a Cancerous Mass in her stomach,which the doctors tried,but couldn't do anything to heal Her. Many of my other relatives have passed away,Tragically,before they had a chance to really live! They WERE NOT 'FUCKERS', They were good and caring people. You have a Nerve saying that people who suffered from such Horrible Circumstances,"Deserved their Horrible fates,and were Bad people!" I'm sure many others on this blog feel the same way as I do! I feel that the Writer on this site,Should Apologize for Hurting people, who are still Grieving for their Loved Ones!

2:10 AM  
Blogger Jules said...

Sorry, Selena for your losses, but he didn't say that ALL people who suffered deserved it. I personally think that the good people who love others and make the world a little bit better do not deserve to suffer in the least.

7:02 AM  
Blogger madi said...

Bobby, dear, this is one difficult question to ask. I believe there are things beyond our capacity of understanding, some kind of misteries of life, if you could call them like that. I guess it depends on every person's way of dealing with them. Some find confort in their trust in God, others find support in their families and friends, and probably some fail because they can't find the faith nor the support. Perhaps some of this last category are those fuckers. Or perhaps they are simply fuckers, blaming everyone else for theur own misery.
I guess I'm getting a little too deep into this matter, it's not my right to judge anyone.

11:30 AM  
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